OUT OF THE SHADOW

We live in a society and times that run like hurricanes, and give us scarce chances to perceive what happens around and the type of people that surround us.

In these circumstances, and the more successful or acknowledged we are, the more likely that opportunistic, parasitic and dubious personalities try to approach us to surf our waves or take a ride on our success, recognition, fame, and influence.

How to identify these beings, who prefer to drain our energies and take advantage of our leavings to achieve projection instead of developing their own light?

 

 

ON SOCIOPATHY, OPPORTUNISM AND PARASITISM

The main feature that allows us to recognize these types of personality deviations, which is also common to all of them is the TENDENCY TO LIE, DISSIMULATE, FAKE, FORGE SITUATIONS AND MANIPULATE INFORMATION.

LIES, EVEN IF SMALL, OR SILLY AND APPARENTLY HARMLESS, ARE WAYS TO CONTROL SITUATIONS AND PEOPLE.

THE COMPULSIVE LIAR, THE PRETENDER, THE DISSIMULATOR SHOW, SINCE THE BEGINNING, THEIR NEED TO CONTROL PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS;

THEIR SICK GREED FOR SUPPRESSING THE TRUTH, THE NATURAL COURSE OF EVENTS AND PEOPLE’S FREEDOM OF CHOICE AND DISCERNMENT IN FAVOR OF THEMSELVES.

FROM THE VERY BEGINNING, WE NOTICE BEHIND THEIR MANIPULATION OF INFORMATION AND PEOPLE, THE INJURIOUS TREND TO TYRANNY.

No matter how influent a sociopath, an opportunist or a parasite may be, HE IS ALWAYS A TYRANT IN POTENTIAL, AN OPPRESSOR, waiting for the right moment or for acquiring privileged information, access, power, projection and influence to exert this tyranny and perpetrate the vicious cycle of more lies, dissimulation, pretense and manipulation of people and information.

1st CHARACTERISTIC – THEY LIE, DISSIMULATE, FORGE SITUATIONS, MANIPULATING INFORMATION AND PEOPLE IN FAVOR OF THEMSELVES, no matter the magnitude.

 

In this search for control, projection, fame, success, influence, the sociopath, opportunist or parasite USE PEOPLE AS OBJECTS OR ASSETS, AND THEY ARE APPARENTLY QUITE SUBSERVIENT OR SUBMISSIVE TO THEIR TARGETS, specially at the beginning of the relationship.

THEY FOLLOW YOU LIKE A SHADOW, ALWAYS BEHIND, SERVILE, LIVING FROM THE CRUMBS YOU DROP OUT, MANY TIMES PUTTING UP WITH MOCKERY AND HUMILIATIONS, AGREEING TO EVERYTHING YOU SAY AND DO, GETTING YOUR TRUST AND THE POSITION OF YOUR FAVORITE PET, ACCEPTING ANYTHING THAT YOU OFFER, WHEN YOU WANT TO OFFER.

THEY ALSO PRETEND FEELINGS, EMOTIONS AND ALWAYS COME BACK EVEN AFTER BEING HUMILIATED OR OFFENDED;

AT A FIRST LOOK THEY SEEM TO HAVE VERY LOW SELF ESTEEM AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO MAKE THEM LEAVE WHEN ANY OTHER PERSON WOULD FEEL OFFENDED IN A SIMILAR SITUATION

ACTUALLY, THEY DO NOT LEAVE BECAUSE THEIR PERMANENCE IS NOT BASED IN TRUE FEELINGS, BUT JUST A WAY TO GAIN ACCESS, THE TRUST OF THEIR TARGETS AND A MATTER OF PATIENT WAIT UNTIL THE BENEFITS COME.

Do not fool yourself, EVERYTHING HAS ITS PRICE FOR THEM.

FREE SOULS WOULD NEVER SUBMIT TO WHAT AN OPPORTUNIST OR PARASITE CAN USUALLY OVERLOOK, BECAUSE THEIR FREEDOM, THEIR EXPRESSION, THE EQUALITY OF CONDITIONS AND THE RECIPROCATION OF AUTHENTIC AFFECTION ARE SOVEREIGN AND ANY IMPORTANT IMBALANCE IN THIS SENSE IS NOT TOLERATED IN FAVOR OF FUTURE BENEFITS OR INTERESTS.

 

2nd CHARACTERISTIC – APPARENT SUBSERVIENCE, SUBMISSION, THEY CAN ACCEPT ANYTHING THAT IS OFFERED; FALSE DEMONSTRATION OF AFFECTION OR ADMIRATION FOR LONG PERIODS IF NECESSARY.

 

 

In general, the sociopath, opportunist or parasite is highly directed towards his or her target, (relationships that can bring them some benefit) THEREFORE THEY ELECT CONVENIENT TARGETS AND RELATE TO THEM, BASICALLY. Relatives, friends or associated people are only used or manipulated and even after years of coexistence, we notice that in fact, they have not developed any kind of real affective bond or true friendship with the ones belonging to the circle of friends or relatives of the target.

 

 

3rd CHARACTERISTIC – POOR OR UNEXISTENT AFFECTIVE BOND WITH THOSE WHO BELONG TO THE CIRCLE OF RELATIONSHIPS OF THE TARGET.

THEY USE PEOPLE IN THEIR OWN BENEFIT AND THERE IS NO SPONTANEOUS DEMOSTRATION OF AFFECTION.

THEY ARE COLD AND CALCULIST IN THEIR SOCIAL INTERACTIONS.

 

 

As soon as they conquer the trust of the target and gain access to his precious personal network, THE OPPORTUNIST, PARASITE OR SOCIOPATH BEGINS HIS OR HER SOCIAL CLIMBING TOWARD THE MOON, BECAUSE THEY CAN GET NO SATISFACTION.

4th CHARACTERISTIC – VORACIOUS AND INSATIABLE APPETITE IN THEIR SOCIAL CLIMBING, AND SEARCH FOR FAME, MONEY, STATUS, POWER AND INFLUENCE.

FROM NOW ON, WE CAN PERCEIVE THEIR TENDENCIES, AND MODUS OPERANDI EVEN MORE CLEARLY.

They can discard the target if it does not interest anymore and substitute it for another, or they can drain it in an even more obstinate way.

USING EACH OPPORTUNITY OR SITUATION TO APPEAR, TO CALL ATTENTION TO ONESELF, TO SELF PROMOTE.

WHAT WE SEE IS THAT THEY ARE NOT TRUE SUPPORTERS, SINCE THEY DO NOT OFFER ANY SORT OF SUPPORT TO THE WORK, PROJECTS, OR LOVING AND SOCIAL LIFE OF THE TARGET DESINTERESTEDLY.

AGAIN, USING ALL OPPORTUNITIES TO CALL ATTENTION TO ONESELF EVEN IF IT MEANS THE SACRIFICE OF THE IMAGE, REPUTATION, LOVING AND SOCIAL LIFE OF THEIR TARGET.

THEIR ASCENTION, THEIR INTERESTS ARE THE ONLY THINGS THAT MATTER.

5th CHARACTERISTIC – THEY DON’T DO ANYTHING DESINTERESTEDLY. THEY DO NOT PROVIDE ANY SERVICE TO PEOPLE THAT MAY NOT PAY THEM BENEFITS BACK.

THEY USE THE TARGET AND ALL POSSIBLE SITUATIONS TO CALL ATTENTION TO THEMSELVES, EVEN IF SOME COULD BRING HARM TO THE IMAGE, THE REPUTATION, THE WORK, THE LOVE OR SOCIAL LIFE OF THEIR TARGET.

 

 

What makes us get to the conclusion that…

6th CHARACTERISTIC – A SOCIOPATH, AN OPPORTUNIST OR A PARASITE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND, NOT YOUR SUPPORTER, NOT YOUR LOVE.

EVEN IF YOU MAKE HIM OR HER POWERFUL, SUCCEEDED OR FAMOUS, DO NOT EXPECT ANY SORT OF REAL GRATITUDE OR BENEVOLENCE.

IF SOMETHING COMES TO ANNOY THEM, THEY CAN THREATEN, BLACKMAIL OR TRY TO RUIN YOU AT ANY TIME OR ANYONE THAT DISTURBS THEM, EVEN IF IT IS YOUR LOVE OR SOMEBODY IMPORTANT IN YOUR LIFE.

 

ANOTHER IMPORTANT ASPECT IS THE PLEASURE IN CAUSING SOCIAL DISTRESS OR RUINING RELATIONSHIPS.

At first, we tend to be indulgent and we try to justify it as emotional immaturity or jealousy, BUT IN REALITY IT IS A WAY TO WEAKEN THE TARGET AND MAKE HIM VULNERABLE, FRAGILE, NOT SELF CONFIDENT SO HE COMES BACK SEARCHING FOR THE DELUSIVE SUPPORT OR IS NEVER ABLE TO FREE HIMSELF AND TO LEAVE.

7th CHARACTERISTIC – PLEASURE IN CAUSING SOCIAL DISTRESS AND RUINING THE IMAGE OF THE TARGET, AS WELL AS HIS TRUE LOVE RELATIONSHIPS AND SOCIAL INTERACTIONS

It is the moment when we mostly notice their BORDERLINER BEHAVIOR

SINCE THEY APPARENTLY OFFER SUPPORT TO THE TARGET’S WORK, PROJECTS AND RELATIONSHIPS, BUT ALWAYS IN A WAY THAT CALLS ATTENTION TO THEMSELVES, AND FOR MANY TIMES LAUNCHING RUMORS, CAUSING DOUBTS, INCITING JEALOUSY AND EVEN INDUCING PEOPLE TO QUESTION THE TARGET’S CHARACTER IF IT CAN BRING ANY BENEFIT OR SPOTLIGHT TO THEM.

8th CHARACTERISTIC – BORDERLINER BEHAVIOR FAKES SUPPORT, BUT DOES NOT ACT IN A HONEST, LOVING, CAREFUL, TRUE AND DESINTERESTED WAY.

 

When someone notices or calls attention to their bad behavior or malice, THEY PLAY THE VICTIM. They show themselves GIRLY OR CHILDISH, wronged, abandoned, fragile or innocent.

THE BORDERLINER BEHAVIOR AGAIN…

WHEN ATTACKING OR HAVING ADVANTAGE HE OR SHE IS MALICIOUS, PROVOCATIVE, SEDUCTIVE, DARING, COLD, MANIPULATIVE, DECEITFUL.

WHEN ATTACKED, SCOLDED OR IN DISADVANTAGE HE OR SHE BECOMES THE VICTIM, GIRLY OR CHILDISH, INNOCENT, WRONGED, HARMED AND FRAGILE.

THE OBJECTIVE IS ALWAYS TO MANIPULATE

MAKING THE TARGET TO FEEL GUILTY, SO MUCH GUILTY THAT HE IS NOT ABLE TO FREE HIMSELF.

AND ALSO AIMING TO CONQUER SOCIAL CONSENT.

THIS IS SO STRONG AND PRESENT THAT COMES TO BE A CHARACTERISTIC IN ITSELF

 

9th CHARACTERISTIC – SELF VICTIMIZATION AND INDUCTION OF ANXIETY OF CONSCIENCE OR INTENSE FEELINGS OF GUILT THAT DO NOT ALLOW THE TARGET TO LEAVE OR FREE HIMSELF.

 

 

ALL THESE CHARACTERISTICS ARE GENERALLY PRESENT AS MILD TRACES SINCE CHILDHOOD AND WE STILL DO NOT KNOW IF THEY ARE INNATE OR LEARNED, BECAUSE WHAT WE OBSERVE FOR MANY TIMES IS A SIMILAR FAMILIAR BEHAVIOR, ALSO FAMILIAR STIMULATION OR ACCENTUATION OF THE CHARACTER DEVIATION.

10th CHARACTERISTIC – SOCIOPATHIC, OPPORTUNISTIC OR PARASITIC TRACES ARE OBSERVED SINCE CHILDHOOD AND AT ANY AGE AND MANY TIMES THE TENDECY IS NOT LIMITED ONLY TO THE INDIVIDUAL BUT CORRESPONDS TO A FAMILIAR DYNAMIC.

THERE SEEMS NOT TO HAPPEN GREAT IMPROVEMENT OF THE CONDITION OR A KIND OF “CURE” WITH PSYCHOTERAPY.

MAYBE THESE INDIVIDUALS WOULD HAVE BENEFITS FROM MEDITATION AND SELF AWARENESS PRACTICES, BUT THEY GENERALLY DO NOT FEEL INCLINED NOR INTERESTED IN THESE TECHNIQUES, SINCE THEY DO NOT OFFER AN IMMEDIATE AND MATERIAL BENEFIT.

IT IS USELESS TO TRY TO “CURE” OR SAVE A SOCIOPATH, AN OPPORTUNIST OR A PARASITE FROM HIM OR HERSELF.

YOUR GOOD INTENTIONS WILL NOT CHANGE HIM OR HER.

WHAT YOU CAN DO EFFECTIVELY IS TO BECOME AWARE OF THEIR MANIPULATION AND ATTEMPT OF HAVING CONTROL OVER YOU.

TRY TO GET OUT OF THEIR GAME OF MANIPULATION AND LIES.

THE INCITATION OF THEIR DEVIATION OF CHARACTER AND MISLEADING BEHAVIOR JUST FOR FUN CAN TRAP YOU, SKIP IT.

 

 

DO WHATEVER NECESSARY TO EXTINGUISH OR NEUTRALIZE THEIR INFLUENCE OVER YOU, AND IF POSSIBLE MOVE AWAY FROM THEM, FOR A HEALTHY PERSONAL, SOCIAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE.

WITHOUT GUILT AND ANXIETY OF CONSCIENCE.

YOU ARE PROTECTING YOURSELF AND PRESERVING YOUR BELOVED ONES.

 

 

 

AWARENESS AWARENESS AWARENESS

 

NO ONE REMOVES A PARASITE FROM YOU

NO ONE SAVES YOU FROM THE MANIPULATION OF A SOCIOPATH

YOU BECOME AWARE OF THEM AND START TO REPEL THEM WITH YOUR OWN LIGHT, NOT RESIGNING TO FEELINGS OF GUILT, NOT BEING FLATTERED WITH THEIR FALSE ADULATION AND JOINING THE FREE SOULS AND PURE HEARTS WHO TRULY LOVE YOU AND WISH YOUR SUCCESS AND WELL BEING.

LIGHT  LIGHT  LIGHT

AWARENESS, SELF- ESTEEM, SELF CONFIDENCE, TRUTH AND LIGHT REPEL SOCIOPATHS, OPPORTUNISTS AND PARASITES.

Froy Gutierrez portrait

By MissKhaosland